As parents, we foist our dreams and aspirations on our children, push them to be more that we could ever be. But do we have the courage and honesty to look within ourselves and ask whether our parenting is driven by our own needs or those of our children? Just as importantly, are we able to accept them and respect them for who they are?
All You Need Is Love will convince you that parenting is not just about bringing up children; it is about empowering ourselves to be better human beings. It is not about teaching but about learning from our children. This is a book of strategies, tools, reflections and anecdotes for twenty-first century parenting. It will help you connect to the immense wealth of wisdom that is already present in you.
Child & adolescent psychologist and family therapist Dr Shelja Sen highlights this through her five anchors of parenting – Connect (create the foundation of parenting); Coach (build the necessary skills in children through an understanding of their unique wiring and temperament); Care (nurture ourselves for a more wholesome life); Community (build caring ecosystems for children to thrive in) and Commit (sustain the courage and compassion).
- Watch Shelja Sen’s TED Talk on How to Speak to Your Children
- Watch her Video on 5 Cs of Parenting
- Buy All You Need is Love at Amazon
Imagine: No Child Left Invisible
Building emotionally safe spaces for inclusive spaces and creative learning
Why do we send our children to school? How can learning be meaningful? And most importantly, how can we build schools worthy of our children?
From the time children are little, we start making stories about them. Schools are like factories where these stories are manufactured all the time. Some children at the top of the hierarchy enjoy rich, diverse and colorful stories which are told and retold. However, there are many who spend most of their lives in school, clutching on to single, thin narratives of ‘failure’: ‘can do better’ and ‘not up to the mark’, ‘not reaching potential’ – every ‘not’ restricting and making their narratives thinner, limited, with lesser scope for possibilities. These are the children who are forgotten, who are invisible and who are seen as never being good enough.
At the core of this book is a deep faith that learning is about the magical relationship the teacher builds with each child; it is about building emotionally safe, inclusive spaces for creative learning. That is the heart, the lifeblood, the bare bones of learning.
Imagine is a call to action for teachers, parents, counselors, therapists, activists, thought leaders and other change agents in our society. A game changer that will force us to reflect, rethink, redesign schools that our children truly deserve.
Watch her talk about her new book, Imagine: No Child Left Invisible as she answers pertinent questions.